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7 Things To Know And Understand About Gaslighting

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As a mental health professional, writer, author and life coach I know gaslighting can happen in multiple types of relationships (i.e.,  professional, medical, family, social), and it can be confusing. The damages can be severe. In my newest piece  for “Psychology Today” (published on June 4, 2022), I share seven things to know and understand about gaslighting. With over 90K views (and counting) in less than 36 hours (without any paid advertisting) of it being published online, I know others are curious about how to cope with gaslighting experiences. Please know you are not alone. It is very normal to be in complete shock and disbelief when it occurs. When it happened to me, I didn’t even recognize it. Other experts had to pull me aside and explain it. Remember, you are not your experience with gaslighting, and it is possible to shape your narrative into one of healing. It is important to seek professional mental health for yourself.

A Season of Transforming Caregiving & Resilience

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During this season, resilience is on my mind. Recently, a close friend told me she admired how resilient I am. At first, her remarks caught me by surprise because I admire her so, and her words truly matter to me. I listened as she offered me beautiful thoughts about how I handled the challenges and losses in my life. And tears flowed, as I realized how important this conversation was for both of us.  When she asked how I increased resilience, I told her that it was modeled for me very early in my childhood. Even though I didn’t know it at the time, my paternal grandparents (photo above is of my paternal grandma) and mother were exceptional examples.

I also wrote about resilience for “Organic Spa”; in the piece I offer tips for reclaiming resilience .

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